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Embracing Yin

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Autumn is happening all around us…

Last Saturday I was outside of Canterbury in a little village in the middle of the fields. It was raining and the hills looked misty. The leaves on the trees started turning red and yellow. It was a great Autumn day. 

And I was with a group of lovely women in a cosy yurt, with a wood burner throwing a warm and soothing light, a soft music playing and a little altar with candles, gift pouches and healing cards in the middle of the room. 

We were gathered for Sacred Pause Day Yoga Retreat. A second one I hosted at the same place. But last time it was summer time and very hot and sunny outside. A completely different experience. 

So…

> we created a circle with our mats and bolsters and got comfortable with blankets and many cushions
> we practiced gentle embodied mindful yoga in the morning and yin/restorative yoga in the afternoon
> we took time to meditate and breath deeply
> we took time to reconnect with our bodies and our inner experience
> we practiced listening deeply to our body’s wisdom 
> we practiced with curiosity and kindness 
> we connected with each other with compassion 
> we did a yin ritual 
> we had lots of warm Yogi and Pukka teas
> we had nutritious vegan lunch and chatted happily

And it was a perfect Autumn day – a day of Yin season. 
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Autumn is a perfect time to embrace more YIN 

Following our Sacred Pause Day Retreat one of the participants send me this note: 
‘Interesting Saturday made me connect with how tired I was, … then in the evening I felt really relaxed and revived! The last 2 nights I have slept really well and started the week refreshed rather than exhausted! So a good start, plus got up 10 mins earlier to do stretches!’

And that’s what Yin offers you when you embrace it..

… when you just let go of constant striving and doing….

… and you lean into the support of Mother Earth and support available around you. 

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Maybe it’s:

  • sinking into your favourite spot on your sofa or armchair, with a good book
  • a warm nourishing cup of tea
  • having a nourishing and healing Thai Yoga Massage 
  • going for a walk in a forest or woods and connecting with Autumn trees full of colour 
  • committing to a weekly nourishing yoga class 
  • taking little breaks during the day and resting more 
  • eating nourishing warm foods 
  • reflecting on how this year has been and letting go of whatever doesn’t work for you any more 

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Yin is a heart medicine 

It’s a feminine soothing energy that heals deeply. Especially in our constantly busy society. 

It allows us to re-connect deeply and find our own rhythm. And live in line with Natures’s rhythm. Just like we are build to do. 

>> SO WHAT CAN YOU DO OVER THE NEXT FEW DAYS TO EMBRACE YIN IN YOUR LIFE?

I’d love to know! 

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What is VITALITY?

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Do you know that VITALITY is another byproduct of responding skilfully to your needs?

But…

…maybe we need to start with defining what vitality is. 

What I see is that in our society vitality is being portrayed as jumping out of bed in the morning and welcoming your day with open arms and a big smile on your face, being ready to conquer the world! 

Well…

In my eyes that’s a really bad way of looking at vitality.

Yes, sometimes you can wake up and jump out of bed full of joy and wonder.

But life is not like that all the time…

 

Sometimes you might struggle with your business/work, or be very tired from a busy period of work or looking after children, or have a disagreement with someone, or a loved one is ill or dying.

In those times I doubt that you will jump out of bed full of beans! 

Does it mean that you have to loose your vitality and wellbeing? Does it mean we can only be ok when life is ‘rosy’? 

If that’s your belief then I’m sorry to say but you’re screwed… 

Because life is life and those challenges are part of it. 

And there is another way…

A way that allows us to be real in our lives and the same time stay fully engaged.

A way to bring more pragmatic wisdom and skilful action into our lives. ☝️

A way that can help us stay connected and responsive to our needs within challenging circumstances. 

It’s simply about showing up for yourself, acknowledging your feelings and responses, honouring your needs and above all responding to those needs with compassion.

It will look different for each one of us.

You might need:
> more time on your own
> more time with loved ones
> journal about your feelings and inner processes
> talk with others
> seek professional support
> move your body more
> seek more stillness
> change your job
> cut things out in your business
> shift your focus more into whatever nourishes your soul

It’s just so personal and individual. There is no cookie cutter approach. It’s just your inner wisdom guiding you to what you need. 

And so vitality might mean eating well and taking rest so you don’t exhaust yourself and keep your energy levels steady.

It might mean going to your regular yoga sessions and have a movement practice that is right for you right now.

It might mean taking any other skilful action to nurture your vitality.

Because even in those challenging times we can still act with self-compassion and loving-kindness towards ourselves and relate to others and the world from this space. ❤️

>> SO WHAT DO YOU NEED TO NURTURE YOUR VITALITY? 

And if you’d like to have some help to work it out – reach out and let’s chat. This is exactly what I help my clients with in Thrive with Body Wisdom – 3-month coaching programme. I offer FREE 30 mins consultation so let’s chat. 

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3 ways of working with body

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Going beyond old ways of looking at body

“Your body is not a machine,
rather a wonderfully intricate interaction with everything around you,
Which is why it ‘knows’ so much just in being.”

Gendlin 
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Over the past two decades I’ve done a lot of courses and read a lot of books. If you know me even a little then you know that I’ve been on a search for the truth. I’ve been searching for a way to practice that would allow me to be at ease with myself. I remember having therapy many years ago and my therapist saying that I was ‘tormented’, which reflected quite well my inner state at the time.

This is why I studied so many different approaches: psychology and counselling, social sciences, NLP, life coaching, Wellness Coaching, energy healing, Reiki, mindfulness, yoga, embodiment, somatic movement and now Focusing.

And in my search I learned so much. I discovered so much about who I am, my conditioning, my inner and outer processes and our shared human condition.

And I’ve worked with hundreds of clients in various settings – people who like me were on a search and I learned so much from them, for which I am so grateful.

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3 ways of working with body

And what I realised is that there different ways of working with our body and our whole experience – leading to different levels of connection.

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1. Traditional (old school) approach – where we treat body as a mechanical object. 

We look at body’s alignment and the difference between right and left sides as well as top and bottom, analyse the posture and decide on how to correct it.

There is a real separation between body and mind – physical and mental/emotional issues and treatments.

Some of the best known corrective approaches to body are based on this principle: allopathic medicine, osteopathy, physio, fitness and exercise, fitness-focused yoga.

Many of us like this approach and find it useful – we want our body to be fixed and sorted, especially when in a lot of pain or discomfort. We want to feel stronger, more in control and fitter.
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2. Newer somatic approach – where we treat body as a space containing passing sensations.

We recognise the power of impact of the Vagus Nerve and a healing power of deep abdominal breath. We acknowledge that body can self-regulate and heal with the right conditions.

We understand that body affects mind and mind affects body and we acknowledge power of emotions.

Some of the best known practices are: 
Mindfulness practices especially body scan, somatic movement and Mindful Yoga, Yin Yoga and all breathing practices. Energetic healing touch practices such as Thai Yoga Massage.
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3. This last approach is very new – it treats body as flowing and living sensation wanting life-forward movement. 

We acknowledge and accept that body is one whole living system that communicates through felt-senses – meaningful body sensations.

The sense of wholeness and integration comes by itself from deep listening and acknowledging of those felt-senses. There is no separation between body and mind – just like the old wisdom of yoga teaches us.

Best known practices are:
Focusing and Wholebody Focusing, Somatic Experiencing (for trauma work) and Embodied Mindful breath-led Yoga.

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This last approach for me comes under SACRED PAUSE practice – taking a pause to notice, acknowledge and be with our body, our whole experience – with kindness and curiosity. Allowing yourself to rest within. Understanding that integration comes from creating harmony and inclusion within (no ‘show it who’s the boss’ BS).

This is what I teach my clients – especially in private sessions as they allow us to explore the individual needs.

I’ve spend the last year learning Focusing practice for myself and to hold in Presence my body with its felt-senses. And I have to say this way of being completely changed how I am with myself, other people and the world. This practice allowed me to go beyond mindfulness and awareness into a real inner dialog and a sense of deep integration and wholeness.

All of the above approaches to body are valuable and useful but you will get different results from each one.
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Why does it matter? 

Because understanding the distinctions is helpful in helping you achieve your goals.

Because if you want to create a deeper sense of wholeness, integration, self-trust and ease then learning to be with your felt-senses is the way forward.

This September I have last 3 spaces available in my private practice schedule for my signature programme Thrive with Ease – 3-month Body Wisdom Coaching Programme, which is designed for you to learn those life-changing practices.

I offer 30 mins free consultation call and you can book it directly on the website or you can simply send me a message and we can arrange the call.

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Thursday little Self-Trust

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Thursday little Self-trust

Have you noticed how cats can relax so easily?

They simply get comfortable, flop down and rest. No fuss, no wondering if they should do it or not, no wondering if they deserve it.

I love watching our cat Spike chilling out with pure joy and a smile on his face 😉 
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We can spend so much time questioning and doubting ourselves. 
Analysing every word and choice. 
Feeling overwhelmed or anxious.

But how would it feel to just say to yourself: 
I AM ENOUGH.

> And notice what comes up in in response to it.

> Welcome it all with kindness and friendliness.

> Acknowledge it and listen deeply to what it has to say.

> Notice how it changes when you give it your full attention with kindness and mindful presence.

And then make choices about your health, relationships and life from that space of kindness and acceptance.

>> How would your life change then? 
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So today as you move through your day and the usual doubts come up simply say to yourself: I AM ENOUGH.

And hold your whole experience with kindness and friendliness.

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And if you’d like to chat with me and see how I can support you in my signature programme Thrive with Ease – then click on the link and schedule a free 30 mins session with me: https://anetaidczak.as.me/?appointmentType=1793836

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